“Kill your darlings” means “if something is holding you back, get rid of it, even if it sounds pretty.”
That’s it! That’s all it means! It means if you’re stuck and stalled out on your story and you could fix the whole block by removing something but you’re avoiding removing that thing because it’s good, you remove that thing. That’s the darling.
It does NOT mean
That you have to get rid of your self-indulgent writing
That you should delete something just because you like it (?wtf?)
That you need to kill off characters (??? what)
That you have to pare your story down to the absolute bare bones
That you have to delete anything whatsoever if you don’t want to
The POINT is that you STOP FEELING GUILTY for throwing out good writing that isn’t SERVING THE STORY.
The POINT is that you don’t get so HUNG UP on the details that you lose sight of the BIG PICTURE.
Good grief….
I never use this phrase personally, and I think it is because I never had it explained to me this way. On twitter and in writing courses in college it was almost always the second to last point above, that or if I argued a red lined excerpt would make more sense in the completed work and I had a plan for the piece they felt unneeded, people would say that I was just holding onto my darling and being obstinate and bad at critique. This way of explaining it makes the phrase much nicer and a more meaningful usage in general by removing so many connotations people try to bend it into to justify their own purposes.
One day you will realize that the reason you disappoint yourself is that you don’t let anyone close enough to do it for you, and so in favor of being disappointed in the company of those you love you are disappointed in the company of yourself, alone in the dark, an it is not the lesser evil you thought it would be
Executive dysfunction is basically going “Okay one two three go. And now. Aaaaaaannnnnnnd we’re goinnnnng now.” for like three hours before the thing happens
every time theres a new bad tv show or movie people act like its the end of the world you guys need to learn about the not watching shit method i’ve been successfully employing the not watching shit method for years
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This is it. The singular most uplifting video I’ve ever seen in my entire life. When Sam said there’s good in the world worth fighting for he meant this.
when you’re out at a restaurant or a coffee shop or a target or whatever with your friends and you overhear/eavesdrop the same snippet of some stranger’s conversation, and you look at each other for a second to check that you both heard this stranger say the same weird/funny/baffling thing and just break out in knowing grins and quiet laughter… that’s a love language
I hope Robert and Barbara Wire are in a happy and committed relationship.